Anticipatory grief is the emotional experience of mourning before an expected loss occurs. It’s common when a loved one is facing a terminal illness, in caregiving roles, or during slow, life-altering transitions like dementia or progressive illness. Even though he loss hasn’t “officially” happened yet, your mind and body may already be grieving.
You might feel sadness, irritability, or a sense of dread. You may feel guilty for mentally preparing for life after your loved one is gone. These reactions are deeply human. Anticipatory grief can also come with moments of clarity or gratitude, as you become more present in your relationships. It’s not all dark, but it is complex.
Talking about these feelings openly can reduce isolation and allow you to begin processing what lies ahead. Remember: experiencing grief early doesn’t mean you’ll grieve less later, it simply means you care deeply and are beginning to carry the weight of what is coming.